Sunday, April 27, 2014

Thing I Have Learned Over The Years

Things I have Learned Over The Years

Good morning everyone,

I would like to thank you’ll for giving me the opportunity to share a little of my life and what I have chosen to do with that life.

My name is Master Ron Tramontano.  I am the owner of West Boca Karate Center.  We are located on Palmetto Park Road ½ mile west of 441in the Shops of Loggers Run.  In the years that we have been in business we have had many students at our school.  Many of these same individuals are now moving through their life’s wearing a black belt in all aspects of their business and personal endeavors. They understand what it is to look a person in the eye and to convey to that person a feeling of confidence.  They are assured of their abilities and are able and ready to meet any tasks put before them.

Can you imagine waking up every day with such a feeling of confidence in yourself, a feeling of knowing that you are able to meet and do whatever tasks are put before you.  Take a second to envision how powerful this would be.

You are all here today looking for the best options for your life.  This should be extremely exciting for you.  There are many types of jobs and careers out there.  Your only concern today should be how to choose the right one.  How do you find the right one for you?  A really tough question.

How are you supposed to know what you like and what you want to do for the rest of your life; when you haven’t lived long enough to experience all of the things there are to experience.

Your Future

A future is something most people believe will happen to them.  When in fact it is something you must create for yourself. As you move through your life you will find two types of teachers. There are those that teach us for money in this way they support their own family’s and ones that teach because they love us and have a sense of responsibility for us. The later would be our parents, families and some very close friends.  The first teacher provides us with an education "reading writing" while the other provides us with lessons learned to them by experience  "Experience the process of living long enough to know better." What is most important to remember now however is one teacher is provided to us by society and the other by God.
Though sometimes we as individuals find a third teacher.  This teaches name is Pain.  Pain can becomes a most effective teacher.  What I mean by this is, we tend not to forget the lessons we learn through our own stupidity. Pain will rear it ugly head usually whenever we choose not to listen to the teaches that have been provided to us by god.

If we take a second and go back to the teachers that god has provided us Our parents and asked them for their advice.  I am sure the first sentence out of their mouth would be “what do you love to do”.  And in here lies the first clue.  Do what you love.  Do what holds your interest. Do what makes a difference to you.  Do what makes you smile.  Do what helps others.

Do you know that I have actually found the answer to this question of what to do for the rest of my life.  I have devised a test, when applied can only give you the right answer the right job the right career.  I called it the Master Tramontano career question.  Here it is.

If you were to hit the lottery tomorrow would you be back to work the next day?  If the answer is yes.  You are in the right job.  My answer is yes.  The feelings, the friendships, the confidence, the ability to make a difference in a person’s life are very powerful aphrodisiac. 

By education I am a microwave engineer and I must say I loved doing that type of work.  I worked for a specialized department of the New York Telephone Company.  It was this department’s job to handle anything that was going to be placed on live television.  Such as Presidential Elections, Thanksgiving Day Parade, New Year’s Eve in Manhattan  I had opportunities to be with and meet people I could have never met if I did not have this job.  When Pope John Paul the II made his visit to New York City in 1979, I was assigned to that project for two weeks.  I watched and saw miracles few people would believe.  When the 52 hostages taken by Iran on Nov.4, 1979 came home on Jan. 20, 1981.  I was there.  However I did not find that career right out of school.  I was married had children been in the army.  By this time I had worked many types of jobs; jobs that neither satisfied me or provided suitable security for my family.  I had to go back to school to prepare for the career I wanted.  The difference this time was that I was focused.  I did have some experience now and knew what it was that I did not want to do for the rest of my life.  The task of finding a career became easier.  However there was a lot time that was lost.

There is nothing worse than the feeling of not being able to take care of your family because you are in a job that you neither like nor is it going nowhere.  Think of this, how about spending a lot of money on an education that is not right for you.

Example: a person directs their education towards a medical career because the family tradition is to become doctors and then find out that they do not like the sight of blood and you do not have the heart to disappoint your family by not becoming a doctor.  Or how about the person who direct their education in a direction of law enforcement and then find out that they are not one to deal with the negativity of such a occupation.

If you had to live each day with the stress that these two examples would provide. You would well be on your way to making your family miserable, and making your life a disaster not to mention the health problems you would cause yourself. 

This is the advice I give to any of my students when asked.  Find all the qualities and attributes that you would like to have in your life and write them down.  Just the mere writing them down on a piece of paper will start the process in motion.  You will attract to your live what you are thinking about, what is in your head.  Under qualities write down this question. What is my nature?  A persons nature is a large part of who they are.  Are you a good person, a bad person, caring person, a person who does not like to get involved, a person who likes to be in charge, are you a follower, or a leader.?  Then write down the word attributes.  Under this word list all of the skills and things that you would like to have in your life that are going to make you unique.  How’s about playing more than one instrument, or flying an airplane, how about being a black belt, how about being physically fit and healthy for the rest of your life and making that decision right now or maybe parachuting out of an airplane, how about scuba diving, ballroom dancing, there will be many occasions in your young lives for you to dance and to attract that special someone that will share the rest of your life or maybe just choosing to give your all to whatever you set out to do.

And now I will if tell you how I start each and every day.  When I wake up in the morning to go downstairs and I look out a window that overlooks our backyard, at the far end of the yard my wife Linda and I have a 4 foot statue of the blessed mother.  A long with three smaller statues of the children praying to our lady of Fatima.  I start by saying a Hail Mary and when I am finished with the prayer I say these words holy mother in the name of your son Jesus Christ I ask for your protection for this day and all days for myself, my family, my friends and my students.  I pray that the peacekeepers of the world be given the wisdom of our lord that our planet may stay safe.  Dear holy mother, I thank you for watching over me and for the work that I have been given to do every day.  I pray for the words to be given to me that will make a positive difference in the lives of my students and my family.

Being a Martial Arts instructor will not be for everyone. And I am reasonable sure if you where to ask your councilors for information on this type of career they would be some what of a loss.  However being a martial arts instructor and school owner it is for me. I live my life in an attitude of gratitude.   

Great Questions: Ask Great Questions..Some of these are just notes to my self.

What's really important: Earth, air, water, our families, people, Your body and food for your mind. Your mind creates your future your dreams. Your body makes your dreams come true. If you do not take care your body where will you live?

Our Families: What is most important must never be at the mercy of what is least important. We must give serious thought to the importance of people and things in our lives.

Values: Where do they come from? What we are exposed to on a daily basis (family, friend, teachers TV). They become the instructions we use when we are faced with problems.

Maturity: Is the ability to solve problems. Also to know when we have a problem.

Schooling: Before you can live your dreams you must first wake up. A formal education will get you a job. Self education will get you a fortune. Information is potential power, the ability to act on that information is the true power. We will all suffer one of two Pains: The pain of discipline or The pain of regret. Whatever you do, don't trade the discipline for the regret.

Business:, What they pay. What they would pay you if you could create values, Success should not be measured by what your getting but by what you are becoming. Complaining, Appearance.

Money: Saving pay yourself first, Why do we want money?

Feelings: Relationships. What are feelings? ...A chemical reaction to an emotional state of mind, the meaning we place upon events in our life.  Chemicals good and bad.

Enemies: What's worse the thief on the street, or the thief in your mind that tries to steal your dreans.

Procrastination: The worst of all disease. It's not only the decision we make. But the dacision we fail to make that shape or future.

Instructions for the game of life:

I. Help as many people as you can: Collect as many clues and learn the lessons as your life unfolds. The game keeper is time. And the game can end at any time.

2. Lesson Clues: are held by people all over the world you are destined to meet. Lessons are your perception of the events that will take place as your life unfolds What is important is the meaning you will place on each of them.

3. Clue givers: You have the choice of meet them or not.

4. If you chose not to meet: a clue giver, that clue will be gone forever.

5. When you do meet: They will decide weather or not to give you their clue and this will depend on the clues and lesson you have acquired to this point. And most important your attitude.

6. How do you know if you have met a clue giver: The only way to know for sure is to be a great listener. The clue giver is here to do one thing to give you his clue. He or she has no choice but to revel themselves to you by the share magnitude of their message.


The effort toward maturity necessitates work, and work requires energy. Whence the power to accomplish all this? The physical things can be taken for granted, but the Master has well said, "Man cannot live by bread alone." Granted the possession of a normal body and reasonably good health, we must next look for those lures which will act as a stimulus to call forth man's slumbering spiritual forces. Jesus has taught us that God lives in man; then how can we induce man to release these soul-bound powers of divinity and infinity? How shall we induce men to let go of God that he may spring forth to the refreshment of our own souls while in transit outward and then to serve the purpose of enlightening, uplifting, and blessing countless other souls? How best can I awaken these latent powers for good which lie dormant in your souls? One thing I am sure of: Emotional excitement is not the ideal spiritual stimulus. Excitement does not augment energy; it rather exhausts the powers of both mind and body. Whence then comes the energy to do these great things? Look to your Master. Even now he is out in the hills taking in power while we are here giving out energy. The secret of all this problem is wrapped up in spiritual communion, in worship. From the human standpoint it is a question of combined meditation and relaxation. Meditation makes the contact of mind with spirit; relaxation determines the capacity for spiritual receptivity. And this interchange of strength for weakness, courage for fear, the will of God for the mind of self, constitutes worship. At least, that is the way the philosopher views it.

My philosophy tells me that there are times when I must fight, if need be, for the defense of my concept of righteousness, but I doubt not that the Master, with a more mature type of personality, would easily and gracefully gain an equal victory by his superior and winsome technique of tact and tolerance. All too often, when we battle for the right, it turns out that both the victor and the vanquished have sustained defeat. I heard the Master say only yesterday that the "wise man, when seeking entrance through the locked door, would not destroy the door but rather would seek for the key wherewith to unlock it." Too often we engage in a fight merely to convince ourselves that we are not afraid.

Ability is that which you inherit, while skill is what you acquire.

Train your memory to hold in sacred trust the strength-giving and worth-while episodes of life, which you can recall at will for your pleasure and edification. Thus build up for yourself and in yourself reserve galleries of beauty, goodness, and artistic grandeur. But the noblest of all memories are the treasured recollections of the great moments of a superb friendship. And all of these memory treasures radiate their most precious and exalting influences under the releasing touch of spiritual worship.